I was listening to KGO Radio in San Francisco during the morning talk show last week and Lucie Arnaz was on. She's the daughter of Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz. Anyway, the main subject was her entertainment career, but there was a moment when she and her host were talking about how difficult it is to have a very busy adult life and yet be a parent.
I can relate. This is a constant struggle. Lucie said that she had heard some time back that it's very important to spend 15 minutes of solo time each day with each child. And that it is a method that worked well for her.
She went on to say that it cannot be time while you're on the phone, reading a magazine, or otherwise distracted. It needs to be time dedicated to the child. This tells the child in a clear and regular way that you love and care for them. Over time the impact of this regimen is very significant.
Now if you have 8 kids like that reality TV couple, then this could be quite a daily investment of time for you. Me, I have 2, which means 30 minutes a day. I'm doing this now with my daughter and need to build it in for my son, too. I think it's very doable and certainly worthwhile.
What do you think? Is this too little time? Too much? Too hard? Too easy?